Life is a Mess Sometimes, and that’s OK


My daughter with her great-grandmother – one at the beginning of her journey, and one nearing the end.

This morning I was journaling about a period of frustration I was experiencing, and it turned into a letter to my posterity, that is now turning into a blog post:

Sometimes I worry about what my posterity will think of the brutal honesty in my journal, but journals are meant to capture real life as we live it. I’m doing them a favor by showing them that life is HARD and FRUSTRATING sometimes.

I want anyone who reads this to not feel like a failure if things aren’t perfect at home. Life is rarely perfect. Perfect moments come and go. They can’t be sustained forever because life is meant to challenge us. The last thing I want is for my life to look like an unattainable ideal because all I write about are the good things. Each of us go through the same things – relationship problems, financial problems, health problems, tragedy and it’s ok to be upset about it, but then you move forward as best you can.

I think of my grandparents who have wisdom coming out of their ears. It’s easy sometimes for me to look at their seemingly perfect lives and compare it to my own sorry attempts to follow in their footsteps, until I hear their stories and realize that they went through what I’m going through now. They certainly had their flaws, but the years have worn them smooth and they are far more perfect than I am because they know more about living than I do. I look at them and think “One day I will get there, but I don’t have to be there right this instant.”

Be kind to yourselves and others. We’re all on different points of the same journey.


5 comments to Life is a Mess Sometimes, and that’s OK

  • Ruth

    Love your line “They certainly had their flaws, but the years have worn them smooth”. It is encouraging to know we will get better and don’t have to be perfect now. Thanks!

  • Joelle, what honesty in your writing!

    I am coming to learn that each moment within itself, is perfect. For as long as we are mindfully present in each moment, it does not matter what the next moment is.

    As you so rightly pointed out, we are all on the same journey, just at different points, and for that realisation to be that regardless of the ‘difficulties’ in life, they are all learning experiences. Doing what we can in this moment now, is all that we can do.

    Blessings to you and yours and wishing you many perfectly happy moments always!

    • “I am coming to learn that each moment within itself, is perfect.” Love this! You are so right. In the moments that I’m freaking out about one thing or another, if I can bring myself back to the moment, I soon realize that everything’s just fine. Thanks for chiming in Li-ling!

  • There are times when I’m driving and the sun just hits my arm a certain way, and the gentle warmth I feel takes my mind back to my teenage years. Even the breeze and the smells remind me of driving in Mom’s car with my brothers going to visit friends or to a party.

    It takes me back to those care-free days when my only responsibility was to have fun and enjoy each day with my family and friends.

    In that fleeting moment, what was a mundane day becomes extra special. It’s like going to my happy place in like 30 seconds.

    I find pleasure in a moment when reality doesn’t provide any.

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